Attention, Fellas! Use ALL Five Senses To Get In The Mood

 Attention men everywhere, psychologist Esther Perel has a message for you: "He who looks down there is wasting his time."


Confused? Allow her to explain. More women are stimulated by not just touch, but words. When it comes to hot sex games, if you want to engage your partner on every single level, you're going to need to capture all five of their senses.

When you do this, you're not only creating a stronger and more meaningful experience for both of you but building on your relationship in a way that lights your brain on fire (figuratively speaking).

Esther has an exercise for you: let your partner touch your hand and tell them exactly how it feels, tying your words and feelings together. Then, reverse it. Touch your partners hand and listen closely to what they tell you.

BodyLove: Ways to Boost Your Confidence

 Weed Your Feed
Scrolling through a newsfeed of size 0 celebrities and models can make you feel like a figure failure. In fact, the more women are exposed to selfies and other online photos, the worse they feel about their appearance, according to a new study. But Facebook doesn't have to mess up your mojo. "The benefit to social media is the ability to curate your own content, so use that power to hide anyone who makes you feel insecure and follow friends and pages that make you feel good," says Claire Mysko, the study author and a project consultant at the National Eating DisordersAssociation. "Creating a feed that includes a variety of shapes reflects the real world and takes you away from the mind-set that there's only one size that's acceptable."

 Like -- No, Love Yourself in Photos

When a friend tags what you deem to be an unflattering pic, resist the urge to cringe. "We're typically much kinder to others than we are to ourselves," says psychologist Robyn Silverman, PhD, author of Good Girls Don't Get Fat. After all, think about how quick you are to like someone else's Facebook photo. Would you be as quick to like your own? Instead of seeking out flaws, ask yourself what your bestie would say about the picture -- maybe that your smile is gorgeous or your legs look toned. "Treating yourself as you would your best friend gets you in the habit of speaking to yourself kindly," Silverman says. "The more you say positive things, the more it becomes a natural part of what your brain thinks."